A bit stressed the past 19+ months at the eccentricities and behavior of my parents. Getting used to it now when I realised that their brains might also be aging just like their visible bodies. Some things that they have begrudgingly accepted are not as great as they were used to include eyesight, hearing, and physical abilities.
I guess the message of this video is true for all of us. Original source of the video is https://www.facebook.com/reel/1123445485367220
Many friends tell me to stop trying to make my parents obey me and to let them do as they please. It's easier for the onlooker to rationally accept the natural course of life because they are watching dispassionately. It is paradoxical that those statists don't realise they are talking to a libertarian who unlike them actually doesn't want to control others. I am only pissed that my parents are not doing things that prolong their lives or improve their health or make it easier to treat their various conditions and ailments. Anyway my friend Roji who had gone through a similar ordeal told me bluntly "Sanjay you cannot make your parents immortal". I had no comeback to it. I knew it was true and now I try to just agree with them and let them be happy as much as my rational brain permits me.
We do have old age homes but my parents are from a generation that considers it a stigma to go to places like that. But then they won't let me keep a helper at home to watch over them in my absence either. My friends and my parent's friends told me that the loss of privacy could be an issue for my parents.
I had a huge argument at home which I eventually won where I got a maid whom we all liked and had been with us many years ago to come back and work at home again. Both my parents don't seem to realise that my mother is also aging and cannot take care of the house as she used to be able to before.
